Self Centered, Self Involved, Self Destructive
Olivia Stren on the self-love of narcissists

[Flare Magazine (Nov.10) - Excerpt]
"Narcissism is the dark side of individualism," says Campbell, who explains that while North American society has long celebrated the individual and the pursuit of happiness, narcissism is individualism run amok; if individualism is the character actor, narcissism is the reality TV star. "It's individualism without responsibilty, without a fundamental sense of equality - it gets easily perverted. The pursuit of happiness can go from liberty to doing whatever the hell you want. It's the idea of license versus liberty." [...]

Narcissists, tending to be charming and self-promotional, also have a talent for initiating shallow relationships - making sites such as Facebook a fantasyland for the everyday narcissist. Facebook may not have caused the epidemic, and may not have the power to turn the average user into a narcissist, but it serves as a playpen for narcissists, giving them the arena to do what they love: peacock and self-promote. "What we've found is that narcissistic people who use Facebook, use it as a way of maintaining their narcissism - to present themselves with highly attractive and provocative images. It allows people who are narcissistic to be narcissistic." In that sense, Facebook is to the narcissist, what the liquor store is to the alcoholic - it won't create one so much as fuel one. [...]


Playing Games




Now I know we said things
Did things
That we didn't mean
And we fall back
Into the same patterns
Same routine
But your temper's just as bad
As mine is
You're the same as me
But when it comes to love
You're just as blinded
Baby please come back
It wasn't you
Baby it was me
Maybe our relationship
Isn't as crazy as it seems
Maybe that's what happens
When a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is
I love you too much
To walk away though
Come inside
Pick up your bags off the sidewalk
Don't you hear sincerity
In my voice when I talk
Told you this is my fault
Look me in the eyeball
Next time I'm pissed
I'll aim my fist
At the dry wall
Next time
There will be no next time
I apologize
Even though I know it's lies
I'm tired of the games
I just want her back
I know I'm a liar
If she ever tries to fuckin' leave again
I'mma tie her to the bed
And set this house on fire

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
But that's alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
But that's alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie, I love the way you lie




Brad Goreski, the Zelig of Fashion Week

Geeks Versus Hipsters
"I know the point of the picture is to illustrate how alike the two castes are, but the crucial differences are in the motives behind the items on each individual.

The guy on the left is holding an iPhone because that's what other hipsters do. He's wearing odd clothing because that's what other hipsters do. He's wearing glasses because that's what other hipsters do.

The guy on the right is holding an iPhone because he has a love for technology. He's wearing a geeky T-shirt because he loves Star Trek. He's wearing glasses because he can't see.

That's the difference between the two groups. Geeks do what they do because its what they love (or need) to do. The aesthetic is a byproduct of that. The hipster artificially manufactures the aesthetic for the sake of the aesthetic. Its inorganic, and thus reviled."

"I feel like one big reason why Geeks have a problem with hipsters is that hipsters are taking all of the image benefits of being a Geek (being outside the mainstream, intelligence), without having gone through the pain of being a Geek. Being a Geek, particularly in high/middle school, can suck. Seriously fucking suck. It's sort of like when a wealthy politician tries to appropriate some tenuous connection to poverty; they don't really deserve the positives without taking the negatives as well."

"The difference between a real nerd and a Hipster. .. talent. When you're really good at what you do, you don't need to dress the part.
The Real geeks out there are at the race track or the university lab or the brewery, or the dark room, and they look like normal people. They don't have time to play geek.
Sort of the same reason only middle classs people wear luxury brands with giant logos."

"You weren't wrong when you commented 'To Geek is to Love' But it's not only that. A geek will explore and create the sub-culture to which the Hipsters glean from.

The geeks are the miners, digging deeper, looking to create the next cool thing—whether it is Art, tech, music, or fashion.

Then the hipsters, the consumers, They are the ones trying to make it fashionable or marketable. It's not to say that hipsters don't have any original thoughts. They just have the money to exploit other's.

'He's the one the that sings all our pretty songs, but he don't know what it means'. — Kurt Cobain

A hipster can appreciate the geek, but will never understand the process that it took to create that thing that they wear/ listen too/ or use.

Which makes anyone who is a hipster, and not a geek about anything... dare I bring it back... a poser. And that is the saddest of all."

"To me a hipster is someone who's taken on the mantle of "geek" or "nerd" because it is now a cool thing to be. Like how some people started dressing like truckers because Ashton Kutcher did it. They may look like a geek, they may talk something like a geek, but they've never stayed up until sunrise roll playing, kit-bashing, root hacking, guild raiding, kernel compiling, component tuning, spec comparing, code debugging, reference reading, photo time-lapsing, achievement unlocking, photoshop tweaking, costume making, board-game playing, sound remastering, library digitizing or many of the other things most of us do weekly. Scratch the surface and there isn't much actual geekery under there.

But I don't hate them. Quite the contrary, as long as we can sell them hopelessly overpriced geek-nostalgia laced paraphernalia I'm all for them."

"I stopped caring for labels long ago. I met so many labeled people (hipsters, punks, indies, skinheads) who were extremely nice, and some quite loathful gadget loving geeks.

It all boils down to whether the person is a douche or not."

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Jimmy the Bartender
Q: I think my buddy has a drinking problem. We go out together, though. So I'm wondering how I raise my concerns without sounding like a complete hypocrite?

A: Take it from a guy who's had to deny more than a few desperate men their alcoholic ambrosia: It's never easy to tell a guy he needs help. But this isn't about your looking like a hypocrite; it's about your having the BBs not to stand idle while he kills himself or someone else. Yes, there's going to be a confrontation. Yes, he's going to try to turn this around on you. Yes, you have to do it. So strap on a set and do it.

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Russian Prime Minister Personally Puts Out Two Wildfires
"He's worse than Saddam. More dangerous, because he's been in charge of an enormous country which he's treated like his own personal fiefdom. I can't express how bad this psycho creep has been, and continues to be, for Russia. Back to the same czarist bullshit--no middle class, just the corrupt, obscenely rich & the tragically poor. "Economic growth," my ass. He's pumping oil & gas like crazy, enriching himself & his corrupt dog-pig oligarch friends, and tossing a few scraps to the moujiks to keep them quiet.

Hey, at least vodka's cheap & plentiful!"

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